A triad of Heart, Emotional Balance and Needed Change votives. Votives burn for 10 hours Do you stay or do you go? Is there hope for your relationship or is it time to cut your losses? Either way, use this combination of votives to help make the change your relationship needs. Blessing - Do they love me or love me not? Today I change from confusion to certainty. I listen to my heart, my mind and my spirit and move forward with clarity.